tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post3555752063430501023..comments2023-07-13T05:08:00.182-07:00Comments on Autistic Wisdom: I Have A SecretAutisticWisdomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01553708099437502270noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-91785294846716593882013-05-01T19:42:28.482-07:002013-05-01T19:42:28.482-07:00I think when it's a stranger you should say an...I think when it's a stranger you should say anything. I certainly wouldn't thank a stranger for diagnosing my child without any prompting or any professional qualification. I may eventually realize they said it for the right reasons, but I think you ultimately did the right thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-56038951621860386332011-03-29T07:45:15.926-07:002011-03-29T07:45:15.926-07:00I agree with Stranded , Just tell them to get it c...I agree with Stranded , Just tell them to get it checked out. Its not a swear word, its just autism. Better know now than later eh? They may always hate you (and love you at the same time) but thats not what matters. <br />As a person just learning about this I am realizing ,there are a lot of people in denial but most are just ignorant .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-11200499457647525442011-03-14T10:09:06.695-07:002011-03-14T10:09:06.695-07:00Tough one, for sure. I "had" a friend w...Tough one, for sure. I "had" a friend who's son exhibited symptoms of autism. He could not walk up or down stairs properly, always hanging on to the rail, and stepping to a step, having both feet on the step before proceeding to the next one. Waiting in line, he would bump his head into my arm repeatedly, threw temper tantrums, and had a hard time making friends. He was very smart though and did super well in school. I suggested she have him checked out, and all of a sudden, she wouldn't speak to me. Apparently she had him seen by a family doctor who said there was nothing wrong with him, and now I'm the enemy :(<br /><br />I would do it again though. My son is 9, and too old for services. We won't see the strangers again, and it's the child that matters. Early intervention is key.Lou Lovrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373442784036488766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-37957612761149425172011-03-13T15:37:43.694-07:002011-03-13T15:37:43.694-07:00Thats my kid. (or my kid at 2.5). Just tell them t...Thats my kid. (or my kid at 2.5). Just tell them to get it checked out. Its not a swear word, its just autism. Better know now than later eh? They may always hate you (and love you at the same time) but thats not what matters.<br /><br />Like the doctor who diagnosed my son and said ABA was the only thing that worked (yes a doctor in the uk said those words!! Unbelievable as people there hate ABA and dont accept it mostly in the medical field). Anyway, I hate him because that day forever is the day when the rest of my life sort of started, but I also THANK GOD for that man everyday!Strandedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819973077683697310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-87071397671715052642011-03-13T12:44:02.043-07:002011-03-13T12:44:02.043-07:00I find myself in the same situation at times. Fri...I find myself in the same situation at times. Friends of ours have a little boy who's almost two and is showing several signs (no eye contact, no gesturing, no language, difficult to transition). I'm not sure if they suspect autism but I told them it wouldn't hurt to contact preschool speech and language when they shared their concern about his lack of language. The mom told me that they've already contacted preschool speech and language and are on the waitlist. I then told her not to wait and to find a private SLP. I figured that speech and language issues are common and framing the issue in those terms is less presumptuous...well at least I hope so.<br />The same friends don't bring up the topic anymore so I may have overstepped my bounds....i hope they weren't hurt by my comments.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-51833979137738571772011-03-13T08:39:24.108-07:002011-03-13T08:39:24.108-07:00My "A-dar" works all the time, too. Know...My "A-dar" works all the time, too. Knowing whether or not to speak up is always a challenge to discern.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03646382031666180357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-74418369238104706892011-03-13T08:31:58.074-07:002011-03-13T08:31:58.074-07:00That's a hard one. Obviously you just want to ...That's a hard one. Obviously you just want to help, but parents get so much criticism under the guise of "helpful advice" anyway that often they're really defensive. I think that all you can do with people that you don't know very well is be subtle and gentle and hope that your comments help them to see the truth. Ugh.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02747382929049494704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5609025654658864946.post-55033080011629083232011-03-13T06:50:02.828-07:002011-03-13T06:50:02.828-07:00I don't have an answer or any advice for you, ...I don't have an answer or any advice for you, but understand how you feel. Like you I screen every child I come into contact with as well. I cannot help it.<br /><br />We have a family member, a single mother with a 2.5 year old and I saw the flags from 6 weeks. I wasn't certain at 6 weeks it was Autism, but knew there wasn't something quite right and as he has got older I am certain he is on the spectrum. I still haven't worked up the courage to say something out right to her, because the mother is the kind to stick her head in the sand and/or abuse me. So I just drop subtle hints when I am around her, hoping and praying that someone picks it up in time before he get's to school.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09313179302668187111noreply@blogger.com